I recently had the honor of going on London Real, and here is just some of what we talked about…
Brian Rose: Grant, what do you usually think about “British European”—is it a different mentality than the Americans?
Grant: I think conservative, polite, manners, proper…all the things that I’m basically NOT—that’s not to say that I don’t have manners but the social norms like fitting into something is something my whole life I’ve struggled with.
England is like manners on steroids, being proper on steroids, right?
Like you have to be a gentleman. But I’m just an open book when it comes to my feelings and telling people what I think.
My dad died when I was 10, so when you don’t have a father, it changes things.
My dad was an enforcer, my mom on the other hand…I remember after my dad died, my mom whipped me—she brought out the belt and it was a joke—I was like, “this is hilarious, I’ll never be whipped again.”
So, I was without direction.
And then I had my mom just scared and trying to figure things out.
School didn’t help because I was bored.
I was born in Lake Charles, Louisiana. A little, small town.
Brian: What is that like for people that had never been to Louisiana that don’t know what it’s like down there? How would you explain it to a Prince Harry?
Grant: It’s hot. It’s humid.
I grew up low, middle-class. I mean, we had a roof and we had air conditioning, we had a heater and we had a car and we had bicycles. But we had fear.
There was tremendous fear in the environment—economic fear.
Everything was conservation. It really has built who I am today.
My dad died in the month of February and my mom sold the house by March. So, at 10 years old, I’m learning a house is a liability.
- 76% of Americans live paycheck to paycheck.
- 64% of Americans that have businesses break even or lose money.
- Most people don’t have any money, and they’re fearful of money constantly.
- They overspend.
- They don’t know how to produce money.
My mom had her hands full, she didn’t talk about money being a problem, but we could see that she was scared…clipping coupons etc., you know that type of thing.
At 10 years old, I wanted to be a man. When I saw that whoever had the money decided where we went, I wanted MONEY because it appeared to me that whoever had the money had control of the environment.
Whoever had the money seemed to control where we went, how long we went for, and what we did.
So, I’m picking up everything from my older brother, my twin brother, my mom, and things on T.V., like John Kennedy gets killed.
That’s what starts forming the early character of the individual.
My dad wanted to be rich. He never said that to me. But later I would find out my dad wanted to be a wealthy man and he didn’t get there.
He fulfilled his personal obligation as a man to take care of his family and his wife and his kids, but he didn’t get the freedom part, which he really wanted.
Brian Rose: Talk to me about the teenage Grant.
Grant: Doing drugs is what I’m doing. At 15 or 16 years old…I smoked weed for the first time.
We were in Louisiana—we’re shooting guns…anything that moves, we shoot it.
I had a rifle at 12 years old, we were wild man.
We’re having mud wars in the lake with the neighbors and smashing eggplants on their cars.
The worst problem in society is boredom.
When people are bored, they become problematic.
So, I’m bored so I smoke some weed at 16.
I knew it was terrible, I didn’t know why I was doing this. I knew I was going to regret doing it.
But you know, my brother was doing it…the peer pressure was very powerful.
So, I smoked weed.
Next day I smoked it again. Next thing, you know, I’m like full into drugs… and nobody starts using drugs thinking “I’m going to be a drug addict.”
But within probably two years, I was doing drugs every day.
Not just weed, other stuff, anything. I’m smoking, I’m popping pills. Any drug.
Brian Rose: What’s your drug of choice?
Grant: I did any drug or alcohol, basically anything that would change my attitude or fill up the boredom.
Not just boredom, but maybe the NEGATIVITY and FEAR and UNCERTAINTY in my life.
In rehab, they said that I have a disease. I don’t believe that some people have a disease.
There are “diseases” now for everything they have no test for. So, I don’t think it’s a disease or I was somehow picked to be a drug addict or I have some DNA to be an entrepreneur.
Me and Gary Vee had this conversation—he thinks entrepreneurs have some DNA.
I said, “That’s just the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard in my life. That means some people can’t be entrepreneurs, which is not true.”
If you do drugs enough it won’t matter what your DNA is…you do anything enough—go into a casino enough times and play enough times, you’ll become addicted.
If you play a game enough times, enough levels at candy crush and you’ll want to get to the next level. So, and that’s what happened with drugs for me.
The drugs are one thing, but it begins to degrade the individual and chips away at your self-esteem little by little by little…and then by chunks and then by big, big, blocks.
By the time I’m 20, I was as close to zero as a person can get.
I thought I was rock bottom. But there were a lot of rock bottoms.